Making relationships work is not easy. The struggles and hardships that couples have to go through each and every day, can make matters worse if not dealt with properly. Understanding that compassion and affection is key to any struggling relationship can determine it longevity, in the scheme of things.In order to make relationships work you must allow yourself to have the following below:
Think of how your heart used to jump when your phone would vibrate in the middle of the night. Think of how it fell to your stomach when you saw it wasn’t him, and realized that once again, he hadn’t called when he said he was going to. Think of how you excitedly enter the train station just so you can go to the place you were about to meet in time – only to find out that he’ll be late for an hour or so.
I’ve learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them. I’ve learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back. I’ve learned that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it. I’ve learned that no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
1. Be Present
Live in the now. The past is gone. You can never go back and make it right. You can never re-live a life that was yesterday. Live positively in the present moment, no matter what is occurring. It is All right and perfect. Do not look ahead and dread what may come. Our mind creates a lot of chatter and makes us afraid in order to keep us safe. Tell your mind “Thanks for sharing” and affirm “I am here, I am present”. You are always at choice and you know how to make this day beautiful.